Too
much sexual abuse and indulgence tires your body, and exhausts your
mental powers which should be conserved for the greatest enlightenment,
and to help yourself and to help mankind. It is more noble that way.
That's all. Sexual misconduct means you have too many girlfriends,
too many boy friends, too many husbands and wives. It exhausts your
storehouse of energy.
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It
is very simple, it means that if you have a husband already, please
don't consider a second! Keep your life more simple, no complications
and quarrelling over emotions. It causes hurt feelings for other people.
We don't harm other people, even emotionally. We try to avoid conflicts,
try to avoid suffering emotionally, physically and mentally for everyone,
especially our loved ones. That's all. If you already have a lover,
don't tell him or her. It hurts more when you tell. Just solve it
slowly and quietly, and don't confess to him. Sometimes, people think
if they have an affair, and they go home and confess to their wife
or their husband, that it is very wise and very honest. It's nonsense.
It is no good. You already made the mistake, why bring your garbage
home and let other people enjoy it? If he doesn't know about it, he
doesn't feel that bad. The fact of knowing hurts. So we try to solve
that problem and not to have it again, and that's it.
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Q.
I saw in Your leaflet that there are five precepts. Once you are initiated,
you have to live according to these five precepts?
M.
Yes, yes, yes. These are the laws of the universe.
Q.
I don't understand sexual misconduct.
M.
It means if you have a husband already, please don't consider the
second.
Q.
Okay. (Audience laughs)
M.
Very simple. Keep your life more simple, no complication and quarreling
over emotions. Yes. It causes hurt feelings for other people. We don't
harm other people, even emotionally. That's what it is. We try to
avoid conflicts, try to avoid suffering, emotionally, physically,
mentally for everyone, especially our loved ones, that's all. Okay?
If you already have one, don't tell him. It hurts more when you tell.
Just solve it slowly and quietly, and don't confess to him. Because
sometimes people think if they have an affair, and then they go home
and confess to his wife or her husband, that's very wise and very
honest. It's nonsense. It's no good. You already made mistake, why
you bring garbage home and to let other people enjoy it? If he doesn't
know about it, he doesn't feel that bad. You understand? The fact
of knowing hurts. So we try to solve that problem and not to have
it again, and that's it. Better not to talk to the partner about this,
because it will hurt them, hurt the partners. Yeah!
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Q.
Master, one of the five precepts is refrain from sexual misconduct.
How does this apply to singles?
M.
Oh! What we mean is that you should be faithful to each other. But
in the case of some of the other religious orders, they may, due to
their tradition, have many wives. If they already had them before
initiation, then that doesn't mean they have to separate and take
only one. But in the general case we tell people to refrain from having
too many ties, because if you have one wife, I think you suffer enough.
Oh, sorry. (Laughter) I mean... I am sorry. Don't kill me please.
What I mean is the suffering in affairs of the heart are very heavy
for the wife or the husband to bear. And that you don't want to cause
to other people, let alone your beloved friends, or the mother or
father of your children.
So
that's why we say refrain from having another affair if you are already
married. But if you already have before initiation, just keep it like
that. And better don't let the other to know each other. Minimize
the suffering. The less suffering the better, because it will affect
you also. You will have a bad conscience and guilty feelings. How
can you meditate in peace? When you meditate you want to think about
God. All you think about is the second or the third wife. Yeah! How
she wanted to beat you last night because you came late, etc., etc.
Or you bought better clothes for the other one etc., etc. Aiya! so
many troubles. It hurts. That's why. That is called sexual misconduct.
But
in the case of people who are not yet married, of course in the modern
time, I can not tell people don't, don't, don't do that, you know.
Yeah! Then try to be faithful to each other, yeah? It's good for the
heart, good for your moral and good for the mutual trust between each
other and especially good for your health, you know nowadays. You
read newspapers more than I do. The letters spelled very big. Should
I say more? More and more people die from AIDS each day, so take care
of yourself.
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Q.
Do you respect homosexual relationships the same as you do heterosexual
ones?
M.
I don't know really, I am not expert in both.(laughter) All I can
tell you is why do you identify yourself with the body and call yourself
a homosexual or a heterosexual at all? We are not the body, brothers,
we are the holy spirit. We are love incarnated, we are all wisdom,
we are the Supreme Master of all things in the universe. Why do you
identify yourself in such a manner and degrading yourself and making
yourself feel inferior by classifying yourself as such and such. Know
yourself as God, get enlightenment and all these things are just matter
of temporary transit.