Our
beauty comes from inside. Of course the outside should be
neat too, but just looking reasonably good is enough in this
aspect! I have promised to teach you how to be a good wife,
how to make-up and dress up beautifully in five minutes so
you can go out immediately, even to a dinner party. But then
I thought again, where should we begin to beautify ourselves?
Beauty is not just your face. Most important is the warm
feeling between a husband and a wife, the atmosphere of understanding
each other, helping each other, and protecting each other.
The
outside beautiful appearance looks good at first sight, but
it will not look good after you look at it for a long time.
In cases of illness or accidents, the outside beautiful appearance
disappears in a short time. Having only a beautiful appearance
but no joy and warmth inside, both husbands and wives cannot
bear that after looking at each other for a long time. For
instance, some have a half-dead appearance or a face that
looks like a kind of reincarnated Buddha -- a bitter-melon-face
Quan Yin Bodhisattva, etc... (Audience laughs.) These people
must reflect upon themselves.
Dressing
beautifully does not mean wearing expensive clothes, but
putting on a smiling face and having a welcoming atmosphere.
These are the most beautiful 'garments.' Try putting them
on! (Audience applauds.)
The
outside appearance is not very important. Sometimes we think
we are not pretty, but be gentle and cordial - always smile
when seeing your husband. When the husband is angry, you
just smile saying, "What displeased you? Please tell me!" and
comfort him, hug him. He then will be pacified. But if you
both get angry, even God cannot do anything good!
Likewise,
when a wife is angry, her husband should comfort her with
a smile, hug her, and ask her what's wrong. Talk soothingly,
then she will calm down. Being a good wife does not only
depend on your face. Originally, I was going to teach you
how to dress nicely and how to please your husbands. Now
I'll forget about that. Not knowing where to start, it is
very hard to teach sometimes.
A
beautiful appearance will come naturally. Just meditate more
and react according to your family situation; don't just
depend on your face. But the face is also important, it is
part of the criteria of being a good wife. Every morning,
your face is the first thing your husband sees when he wakes
up. If your face is terrible, he will have bad day-dreams
all day in his office (Audience laughs.) Coming home in the
evening, the last face he sees is also yours. If you again
give him a long face, he will have even more nightmares all
night. We spiritual practitioners should have merciful hearts.
(Audience laughs and applauds.)