Love Others Wholeheartedly

Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai in Singapore
Sep. 27, 1994 (Originally in English)

Q: Dear Master, I always wonder how to love others wholeheartedly and receive the same treatment. Thank You!

M: Well, you can love people, but people might not love you. So the best thing is to just love them; no expectation. Then we'll not feel hurt. That's difficult in marriage. Well, it's very difficult to love some people that you do not know. So the best is that you love someone that you know, wholeheartedly and devotedly as best as you can. Sincerely, no need to show off too much. But if you love someone, just say so. And show it, because sometimes people think, "Oh, I love him, I love her. I don't have to say it. She'll know. He'll feel it." Feeling and hearing are different. We have many organs: smelling, seeing, and hearing. So we love to see, and hear as well. Most men do not show emotion. But this is why sometimes the marriage doesn't last, does not feel very solid, does not feel very secured, because the husband does not show. And it is better we show each other that we appreciate each other before it's too late.

Love your family members wholeheartedly; sacrifice for them whenever necessary; do everything you can in your power to help them and to let them know that you love them. And to other members of mankind, you just show your love universally, and help whoever needs your help. That is the way of love. You don't have to hug everyone on the street, just to show your big hug. (Master laughs.) I don't hug people that easily. Except I do that sometimes to the disciples and when I see the poor people, I have to hug them more. I don't know why. Something pushes you; something inside just makes you feel you want to do it. And you don't even think; you don't have time to think about it at that moment. When I see a poor person, the people, not only giving money, but their fate, their miserable condition, I don't mind anything. I could kiss them, hug them all day long. No problem. Or the prisoners, sometimes the more dreaded people, I just don't think. I can not think anymore at that moment. I just feel, "They need something; they need my love." I feel something urging inside, that makes you do it spontaneously. And that is the time you should show. At that moment it's really true love.

You can not reason anymore. You can not tell yourself to stop or you can not tell yourself to do it. You can not tell yourself why you want to hug. No, no more reason; no more thinking. Just do it. You know what I mean? If such a kind of thing happens, then you know that is the true love. That is the spontaneous love. There's nothing to talk about. Otherwise, if we sit here and reason about how to love people, that's nonsense. You can't teach anyone to love anyone. You know what I mean?

Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai in Singapore
March 9, 1993 (Originally in English)

Q: Master, how can I remember my past lives, so that I can retrieve the knowledge I learned then?

M: No, no, it's enough to learn in the present. Because in present life, we haven't even learned enough yet. The past life is gone, and God has drawn a curtain between the past and present. It's for our own benefit. Therefore, it's not always necessary to trace the past. If we know too many things about the past, without having enough power to handle it, or to improve it concerning the present, then we will be in trouble. That's why people sometimes come into a possessed kind of state of mind. Or knowing too much of the past, they will be miserable living in the present. Suppose you know that in the past life, you were the sultan of such and such country, and now you are driving a taxi. Would you like it? Or suppose that you know that last life, you and your wife had some kind of bloodshed with each other. Now every time you see her, would you be afraid that she killed you last life? Can you ever be loving again to her? It would affect very much your family harmony, your personal relationships, as well as your own happiness. Is that not so?

Therefore, we don't need to know the past. We take care of the present, and the future will come beautifully. Meditate on your inner self, or choose whatever method you like. But I would only recommend the Quan Yin Method, because I know after all the studies, that it's the best; that it's the highest, the quickest, the safest. So we offer that to you, in case you want to gain more knowledge in the present, and for the future. And the past takes care of itself. The past is gone, the past we can just forget it.