Actually, when we’re very happy, it’s very difficult to meditate. And when we’re very miserable, it’s also very difficult to meditate! That’s why we always try to strike a balance in between, so we don’t feel such extremes that we forget that the real happiness is inside. Truly, it is!

It doesn’t matter how much we love someone, or how much someone loves us. One day or another, he or she will disappoint us. And then it hurts. Maybe we misunderstand, or maybe it’s true. But it hurts. Even with our children or husband, if we truly want them to love us, we have to be like a slave 24 hours a day to their every wish. Then they’ll be happy, and then they might stick with us. But even then it’s just maybe.

Sometimes children also make trouble for their parents because they misunderstand their parents, or they want their parents to be with them all the time and give them all of their time. But sometimes, if the parents can’t satisfy them, they just don’t care. So even children sometimes cause a lot of pain for their parents. And sometimes a husband and wife cause pain for each other because of too many expectations or even just normal expectations.

Still, they’re not always easy to fulfill. Like today someone loves you and then you expect tomorrow he will be the same or maybe even better. But then something happens tomorrow. And then he’s cranky and moody, and he doesn’t want to talk to you. It may not be your fault. But then you say, “If you don’t care about me, why should I care about you?” And then you both say it, and then you separate or at least feel bad about each other. And then it takes many days before you reconcile with each other again, or maybe never. Sometimes even just small things make people fall apart, and it hurts a lot. It’s not that it doesn’t hurt. If it didn’t hurt, it would be OK. But it does hurt.

Actually, if we truly rely on the inner happiness, then everything will come. Then we’ll never be disappointed or have to rely on anyone. If someone comes, it’s OK, or if they don’t come, it’s OK. We don’t feel so hurt or pained inside. ...Next Page